Being a teacher/instructor in the computer industry for many years one of the most common thing I heard from people was “I just don’t think I can ever learn to even use a computer”. By the time the class was over, be it hours, days or weeks, their attitude had changed. Not only did they learn what they needed to about computers, but I allowed everyone of my students to have the knowledge that they could do anything they wanted to IF they put their mind to it. They could be successful in any position of their choice. And in fact, the same could be applied to their personal lives as well.
“Can’t never could do anything”, my dad always said. He taught me that I could do anything that I wanted to, if I put my mind to it. But in spite of his words, I had a very rough road. It wasn’t easy. I had a lot of things going against me. My teenage years were very turbulent to say the least. My early adulthood was far from ideal. I was a high school drop out. A college drop out. I kept getting myself into situations and relationships that were very destructive for me. My self esteem was on empty. I felt doomed and many, many times wondered how I would ever get to where I wanted to be in life. I wasn’t even exactly sure of where I wanted to be in life, but I knew I wasn’t there.
In my early life suicide was like a shadow looming over me. My life sucked! I had no idea how to fix it. I hit rock bottom a good number of times. So, I’m not one of those people who just had everything good. It just doesn’t work that way. If I had not of been through what I have, I would not have learned a thing. I made bad choices. Often, there was no choice. So, life sucks. Most of us don’t get things the easy way. We get our hopes up… only to be let down. Over and over again. How in the world could you continue to hope for anything better?
There is a learning curve. We are not always taught how to mentally prepare ourselves to be successful. Sure, my father implanted some pretty encouraging words when I was young. But he was also one of the parts of my life that was destructive during very impressionable years of my life. It doesn’t help that I was a daughter and had an older brother that seemed to have much more in common with my father. My mother wasn’t a very successful woman herself… finding herself in minimum paying jobs and very controlling relationships. To a point, I simply refused to be like my mother. But there was much, much more to it than that. In fact, I was programmed to be just like my mother. That’s what was expected after all.
It took me a long time to learn and to get to where I am now. I am not like my father or my mother, or even my brother. I am me. And I had to learn how to be “me” and to be comfortable in being who I am. Being comfortable with who I am required that I accept who I was and to learn to form who I will be in the future. No one ever stays completely the same. It’s an ever evolving changing thing. Environmental elements tend to play a big part of who we will become. How we use those elements will determine if we grow into a better, happier, person or if we allow life to kick us around.
I hope that you will join me. I can not guarantee anything. What I can promise you is that you can learn what I learned to do. How I learned. Why I learned. And become the person with the career that you want. And yes, I incorporate careers in with personal lives. If you think that your career can’t or won’t affect your life, you are wrong. You can keep work at work… but it still affects you. You experience your work just as you would experience anything else in your life… it is a significant part of your life. It will not be easy, I will also tell you that. Some days you may hate me. I am not a doctor or therapist of any kind. I am a human who has been there.
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